She's 20, but her articulation around difficulties sounds like she is much much younger. We aren't made like the movies. International Journal of Women's Health.
It might be the birth control, she might be asexual - we can't know for sure but the fact that she says she's sore even though you're using extra lube and foreplay suggests it could be either a medical problem or a um "physics" problem - if your angle isn't right, it can rub and be uncomfortable which is really not sexy.
If she wants to address this you can help her find good medical help. Seconding this. Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within girlfriend says she has no sex drive in Belleville articles.
I was very anxious and dipping into a depression, even though we were the best of friends and I loved him.
IF she is interested in working on this, I would see if she's willing to try the following things: 1 Go off hormonal birth control. But regular condoms dry me up; they hurt after a while-- so it was this weird catch 22 for me. This goes back to 4- she may need to orgasm before penetrative sex is enjoyable.
I do not know why I have almost no sex drive. Any long-term medical condition can affect your sex drive. Sexual desire disorders.
It has caused a lot of problems for me, because people I've loved -- I didn't want to have sex with them, but for the vast majority of people, sex is an important part of a romantic relationship. Swapping it up might help. Continue with kissing, holding hands, etc. Do you make her feel wanted, loved?